FormerOBS
Conductor
My dad felt a great responsibility to take care of my mom after she lost the ability. He was about 90 at the time & she was in her late 80's. She became as dependent as a small child, and the job was beyond his ability. She was miserable because she was prescient enough to know something was not right, but she didn't understand why. She was also in constant pain from several physical problems, and didn't understand her limitations. Eventually, she went into a care facility where she got the professional care she needed. When Mom died, Dad knew he had done all he could for her. When he died a couple years later, he died with a clear conscience. Taking care of elderly people with numerous physical and mental problems is a very special skill, and most of us don't have the innate ability, or the learned ability, to do it. Those who do are truly angels. Sometimes it's best for us to let the pros take over. That doesn't mean we've abandoned our loved ones. It simply means we recognize the reality of the situation, and we do our best to provide what's needed.